Showing posts with label Canada. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Canada. Show all posts

Saturday, April 27, 2013

Holding Grudges is for Idiots



Helloo0O Ladies and Gentlemen!

Welcome to Graceland Ontario, your one stop location for success advice from the greats. Today, we’re going to talk about moving on.

Earlier this morning, I saw the largest military parade to march through Toronto since the Second World War. We’re talking over 1500 servicemen. And, in Canada, that’s not something you see everyday. The reason? Today was the 200th anniversary of the Battle of York in the War of 1812. American gunboats pulled up into Toronto harbour on the morning of April 27th, 1813 and pushed British forces back from the coast. Then, men were landed on shore, slowly moving Anglo-Canadian and native troops back to their base at Fort York. When the British commander, Major-General Roger Sheaffe, felt the battle lost, he fought a retreating action that included blowing up the powder magazine of Fort York; the explosion annihilated the fort and injured or killed about 250 people, including the American commander, Brigadier General Zebulon Pike, who were too close.

The Americans burned York a couple days later before returning to the U.S.

But, though the battle was a low point in the city’s history, the parade was one of commemoration of service; not a bandage of past failure, but a recollection of challenges overcome.

And that’s what astonishes me − in talking about this war, from what I’ve seen from both sides, there’s no animosity. There were some brutal consequences for both the Americans and the Canadians in the last major, official conflict between them. But both respect the other now.

To me, it’s the ultimate show of forgiveness and moving on.

The Canadians, the Americans, the British and the natives realize the seriousness of the affair their forefathers were in. But they also know they, more than anything, fought for peace. Sawing into old wounds won’t do anybody any good. Today, there weren’t any “Bash the Americans” parties in Canada (to my knowledge) to get back at the Americans for “wrecking our town” a couple centuries ago. War in general is either a mistake to start with or a last resort. Turning that into any long-term hatred’s a waste of everyone’s time.

Just as the War of 1812 and the Battle of York are ancient history now, so you must recognise are the pains of your past. Sure, some relationships are still sour years after a conflict. But is that smart or just an emotional reaction, not allowing yourself to let go of something that’s long done?

Canada and the U.S. get on pretty well today. But, if we lived based on our past, we’d be vying to blow each other up. And it wouldn’t do either one of us a pound of good. As is it with your life. Unless something’s current, forget it. If a city can forgive being burned down, you can overcome whatever happened to you. It may not be easy, might take time, but in the long term, wouldn’t it be better to say, “here’s commemorating the day I forgave so and so after so many years” rather than “it’s just another day hating whoever”?

You know it is.

Thursday, July 12, 2012

He Who Does Not Sympathize, Loses...

Helloo0O Ladies and Gentlemen!

Welcome back to Graceland Ontario where, per usual, we will be looking at the success lessons taught by the King of Rock ‘n’ Roll and see how we can use them to revitalize your life! Today, we will be talking about the benefits of sympathy when you give it and the anger it’ll bring you if you don’t.

If you’re a news bug, you may have read about the ongoing tuition riots taking place in Montreal, one of the biggest cities in my country of Canada. Since at least February, there’s been students protesting about the province’s idea to increase tuition 75% for Quebec (that’s a Canadian province, all you out of country-ers) students.

First off, I’m glad I don’t live near Montreal… it seems to have gotten pretty nasty. Secondly, I’m not going to support or condemn the riots… my opinion isn’t the point of this article (though, if you’d like to discuss it with me in the comments section below or by email at alexghilson@gmail.com, I’d be glad to).

What we are going to talk about is an event these riots spurred in a history class while I was present…

The teacher, one of those fellas (he’s a good chap) who likes tying past issues to present ones, asked the class what they thought about the riots. Some had heard, others hadn’t. He showed a news report discussing the event and one of the issues that came up (what condemners of the protest are using for fuel) is Quebec has one of the lowest tuition costs in Canada. In fact, my province (and the kids’s province) of Ontario presently has one of the highest tuition costs.

This was a Grade 12 class. In Canada, that’s your final year of high school, the one before university (if you’re heading there). So, the rise of Quebec’s tuition costs and the riots surrounding them didn’t make that class too understanding. It actually made some mad.

“Why are they complaining when we’ve got it so much worse!?”

“They just need to stop being lazy and get a job!!!”

“It’s just an excuse to wreck havoc… and it makes university students look bad!”

After the riot bashing, the teacher brought a question to the class−

“How would you like it if someone hiked your tuition and said those things to you?”

You can imagine the change of tune.

“But we’re different! We spend more already!”

“I’d get in even more debt.”

Now, as I said before, I’m not supporting or condemn anything. But what I am saying is a lot of people do condemn, often without thinking about the impact of their comments. Does that mean you should agree with the riots? Hell no. But every time you make a public opinion regarding a hot issue, like riots, rights or abortion, you have to expect you’re going to tick somebody off.

“But others condemn? Why shouldn’t I? I don’t care who I tick off!”

Well you should. You are your own advertiser, your best advertiser. Everything you say that’s good gets people wanting you and leading you to success, everything that’s bad will tick people off. And when you tick somebody off, they don’t want to be you customer.

Now, imagine that class had been a company producing university books. Imagine any one of the people in that class had been recorded, legally or not, publicly or not, making one of those condemning comments and those students in Quebec heard. That’s right − that company would be filing for bankruptcy before they could compose an apology.

Turning to our friend the king, Elvis was asked by a reporter in the pre-interview before his Madison Square Garden show in 1972, “You were in the Army and were drafted. What is your opinion of war protesters? And would you today refuse to be drafted?”

What did the king reply? − “Honey, I’d just soon to keep my own personal opinions about that to myself… Cause I’m just an entertainer and I’d rather not say.”

Whether it was because of his manager, Colonel Tom Parker, or simply his own discretion, Elvis took a really great opportunity to make a lot of people mad at him and shut it down. If he’d disagreed and condemned war protesters, he would have kept all his fans from the 50’s who were grown up and conservative at the time but he would have lost all his young fans. If he’d done the opposite, he would have lost his 50’s fan base (his customer base) and would have impressed the young kids.

It’s not that you shouldn’t have an opinion but you’ve got to watch it − the kids in that history class would have offended themselves if they’d later gone to a university with hiking tuition that they wanted to protest.

After all, as one of them said, “They just need to stop being lazy and get a job!!!”

Meanwhile, they’d have alienated everyone (customers included) who took the brunt of their harsh words. Remember: everyone’s a customer, and everyone’s a lead. You need to be comfortable with yourself and your opinions but if it’s not going to do any good spurting it out then don’t − you might save yourself a lot of grief.

Elvis’s Lessons:

It’s not wrong to have opinions and to feel strongly about certain things but you’ve got to watch what you say and, especially, who you condemn. Everyone’s a customer and everyone’s a lead and every time you take the bait to insult somebody, you may well be shooting your success in the foot. If you can hold onto it and scream it into a pillow, it might be an idea − that way you won’t be hurting somebody, and yourself, unintentionally. Remember the high school students: they were going to be university students possibly facing their own tuition hikes. If they stay true to what they said, they’d be insulting themselves and their own hope of change. If it hurt them, it would have hurt somebody else. The only thing to wonder is who would hurt the other more…

P.S. If you're interested in seeing Elvis talking at that pre-Madison Square Garden show press interview, here's a link to a Youtube video of him speaking.

P.P.S. Remember to leave a comment below this post or email me at alexghilson@gmail.com to discuss this post.

Friday, June 22, 2012

Elvis, Sir Isaac Brock and the Success Constant (Or The 200th Anniversary of the War of 1812 Special)


Helloo0O Ladies and Gentlemen!

Welcome back to Graceland Ontario for another week of linking the success principles demonstrated by the King of Rock ‘n’ Roll to how you can implement them in your life. This week we’re going to be talking about the similarities of greatness throughout time and how it never really changes (what I like to call the Success Constant).

If you’re a history buff (or pay attention to the news), you may be aware that this Monday past, June 18, 2012, was the 200th anniversary of the start of the War of 1812.

War of 1812 History Lesson:

If you’ve never heard of the event (a distinct possibility if you live outside of North America, where it’s often overlooked), in short: the American government, pushed by people wanting to conquer the largely unpopulated Canadian colonies (called Manifest Destiny in history classrooms) and exasperated by the British Royal Navy’s tendency to steal American sailors off American ships in the belief they were deserters (which, occasionally, they were), declared war on Britain and, therefore, Canada. Canada only had a small number of British troops (Canada was a British colony at the time), a few native warriors and some militia defending us. The war lasted about 2 ½ years, between 1812 and 1815. In the end, nobody really won; Britain (and its Canadian subjects) successfully defended their land, Britain/Canada attempted an invasion of the U.S. but were repulsed (though, we did burn down the White house). The biggest losers were the natives who didn’t gain anything but continued losing their land to the growing U.S.

End of War of 1812 History Lesson.

One of the most influential leaders of the conflict was British General Sir Isaac Brock. He was born on the isle of Guernsey, one of the Channel Islands off Britain, in 1769. He became noted for his bravery, in both life and the way he died (he was shot leading a charge at the Battle of Queenston Heights in late 1812) and, a hundred-odd years later, he became one of my heroes (yep, right up there with Elvis).

With the bicentennial of the war, I see many similarities between my two idols: they were both strong leaders in their field, they had unique ways of performing, they were both soldiers at one time and, sadly, they both died young (Elvis at 42, Brock at 43).

Now, I wanted to find why both men inspired me so much in my life… and I think I figured it out: they were both so unique and successful and this made me, and others remember them. We respect them so much that we kinda want to be them.

But how does this help you?

Well, let’s make a list of some of the positive traits they demonstrated and see how they can be implemented in your life:

Strong Leaders in Their Field

Both Brock and Elvis were leaders in their field. Elvis had a cutting edge, highly energized way of performing that had never been seen before on the big time when he started in the 50’s. Brock used his bluffing and bravery to win the Siege of Detroit with barely a shot being fired, one of the first victories of the war. He won his knighthood as a result. They led the way for change and the strong, bold way they did this earned the support and respect of others. When you lead the way for positive change in your organization, respect is similarly earned for you being a leader, attempting to improve your work and move it forward to the future.

Different Ways of Performing

Brock and Elvis didn’t act the way most of their contemporaries did. Elvis wasn’t like any other rock star, more interested in the energy than the tune; he liked the music as much as he did shaking, perhaps more. Also, he really cared about his fans, paying attention to them, kissing them. He respected them so much for their support and his humility and thankfulness made him unique. Similarly, Brock wasn’t like other generals; for the man in charge of Upper Canada (present day Ontario) he cared about his men. In fact, it was perhaps this opinion that led to his untimely death at 43 − he would do anything he told his men to do, including leading a frontal assault into an enemy position.

When you do something a bit different than others in a positive way, putting in the extra effort, people notice, and they respect you for it. They respected Elvis for his appreciation of the music and his fans, they respected Brock for his love of his country, his men and the way he made them feel like his equals. That little difference goes a long way in making you seem awesome and unique, which leads to our next point…

Uniqueness

Both Brock and Elvis were, and are, looked upon as unique − Brock for his bravery at the front of a charge, Elvis for a type of passion in his music unheard of nowadays. They were originals in every sense of the word and, as such, were respected.Why do people respect originals? Perhaps because it’s hard to be one for it leads to criticism (people are jealous when others are more creative than they are). But, when done properly, it leads to better results. In a way, being a leader in your field and performing differently to your colleagues is also part of this uniqueness. People forever remember and respect those who were different simply for that − being different. Whether it be Alexander the Great, Socrates, Henry VIII, Brock or Elvis, uniqueness is why their names are in history books.

Impact

Finally, I’d like to talk about these two men's impact on the world. Brock stopped the momentum of the American invasion; it’s quite possible without his effort, Canada wouldn’t exist as it does today (with the Maple Leaf flag, anyways). Elvis created recordings that will be remembered as cutting edge with the power to make people want to hear them 50 years after being released. The impact these men had on others makes them relevant to people who otherwise wouldn’t care. And people remember them for that.

Really, the similarity between these two men, over a century apart with different professions is astonishing. Perhaps it is once more a reminder that success principles don’t change, that they remain similar through time and across professions, something I call the Success Constant. They are present as rules and can be learned if the work necessary to learn them is put in. It’s an empowering conclusion to come to.

Elvis’s Lessons:

Great men (and people in general) are similar in their success principles; success is predictable. Doing certain actions will bring you certain results. Acting a certain way will also bring you certain results, no matter what year it is or what profession you have. This is something I call The Success Constant. By being leaders in their field, performing differently, being unique and ultimately making an impact, both Brock and Elvis demonstrate the Success Constant, and they are remembered for it − two different heroes from two different times but both successful in life, and death. Take their lessons to heart.

P.S. If you're interested in seeing Elvis making an impact on his fans and the world, here's a Youtube video of him with "Blue Suede Shoes" from the '68 Comeback Special.

P.P.S. Please remember to comment below or email me at alexghilson@gmail.com to put forward your stories, praise or constructive criticism.

Friday, June 15, 2012

Service Pays Dividends

Helloo0O Ladies and Gentlemen,

Welcome back to Graceland Ontario, your one stop blog discussing the traits that made the King of Rock ‘n’ Roll successful and how those same traits can be used to make you more successful. This week, we’re going to make a reference to last week's post but we’re going to be talking about service.

Last week, we talked about how it was Queen Elizabeth II, Queen of England and the British Commonwealth’s Diamond (sixty year mark) Jubilee. Here at Graceland Ontario (which is part of Canada, where her Majesty is head of state), we talked about stability as one of the main reasons why people love her. Another trait she exhibits is service.

The average person works for over twenty years before they earn their pension. A few exceptional people work for thirty years. If you’re a martyr, you might work forty years. I can’t tell you anyone I know who worked for fifty, let alone sixty, years. Most people get to the age of sixty and want a pension (not that I can blame them) − if you asked them to work for sixty years until they’re 86 (yep, her Maj’s birthday’s in April and she’s in her mid-eighties) they’d think you were crazy.

“So, she’s dedicated. Why should I care?”

People admire a person, man or woman, who would dedicate that long to their country. Some people feel patriotism for their nation, for the Queen it’s her job. People respect her because of her service, they respect her very much − even if they don’t believe in the monarchy.

Now, though Elvis in no way showed that kind of service to an office, he did to his fans.

In, "A Predicament Called Presley," September 7, 1957, Elvis said, "…fans want my shirt. They can have my shirt. They put it on my back." He loved his fans because he felt they were responsible for where he’d been put. But it went deeper than that.

Patrick MacDonald, music critic for the Seattle times, wrote on August 16th, 2002, the 25th anniversary of the King’s death, that, at one concert, “[Elvis] kissed a lot of girls and gave away a lot of scarves, but was kindest to a cute little girl who presented him with a royal crown on a satin pillow. She got a hug, a kiss and a scarf.”

I mean, this was in the middle of a big concert. Not only could Elvis respect his fans but he could respect his fans as individuals. He, a busy superstar, took the time to give one little girl a hug, a kiss and a scarf. That extra little service to his fans made him exceptional.

Elvis would kiss his fans, he would talk to his fans, he would stop shows for his fans. Considering how important he was, he was really dedicated to his fans. And, what was especially important, he could single out his fans and make them feel like human beings. For a man that busy, what an incredible achievement; what a wonderful way to show service to his fans. And guess what? His fans love him back for that extra effort. And people who see his shows respect him for treating his fans that way, even if they don’t like his style of music (like they respect the Queen for working so long even if they don’t appreciate the monarchy).

So, what does this mean for you? It means that when you put in that little extra effort, give a little extra service to those around you, people notice. And they respect it. And the more service you give, the more respect you get. And even if people don’t like your style or work, they begin to appreciate you as a person. Then, they tell their friends about their appreciation and soon more people respect you. Over time, that appreciation of you, as an individual, can work into your finances (everyone’s a potential customer) and your social life (all the possible tea dates you can now have). For a little extra service given at your place of work everyday that sounds like more than healthy compensation.

Elvis’s Lessons:

Both Elvis and Queen Elizabeth II have given incredible service, in the Queen’s case to her country and in Elvis’s to his fans. They make others feel special by giving that bit extra than everybody else. And even if people don’t like their style, they respect them for giving that bit extra. When you start adding that extra little bit of service, people start respecting you more, too. And even if they don’t like what you do, they can tell their friends and get more people interested in you. The more people interested in you, the better it is for your financial and social lives. It’s a lot to gain for a little extra service given.

P.S. If you're interested in seeing Elvis showing service firsthand, here's a video of him interacting with his fans (while on horseback!).

P.P.S. If you agree (or disagree) with what I'm saying, remember to drop a comment below or email me at alexghilson@gmail.com. I'd love to hear your stories, feedback and constructive criticism.