Showing posts with label improve. Show all posts
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Saturday, March 30, 2013

And That Deserves Respect


Helloo0O Ladies and Gentlemen!

Welcome back to Graceland Ontario, your one stop location for learning from the greats! Today, we’re going to be talking about loyalty to an ideal; we're going to be talking about integrity.

As most of you know, it’s the Easter weekend, when the Christian churches remember Christ’s death and resurrection from the grave. You may not be a Christian - I’m not a strong one myself - but that doesn’t make him any the less an exceptional man that should be learned from. Anyone who’s inspired and influenced the world as much as he has possesses something we can learn from, even if we don’t agree with their message or actions.

Betrayed by the thirteenth apostle, Judas, Christ was put to trial by the Romans. Even when Pontius Pilate, the Roman commander, found him not quilty, the Jewish elders demanded his execution. Christ was crucified on a cross − nailed to a piece of wood to suffocate and dehydrate to death.

But, famously, Christ prays to God in the Bible, "Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do" (Luke 23:34).

Christ was dedicated to teaching peace, to improving people’s lives. His teachings were intended to revolutionize the life of the people of the time to a better way. Simply because he was sentenced to death by his own people doesn’t mean he hated them. Perhaps he felt them mislead, wrong, maybe even foolish, but he wouldn't hate them. Whatever they’d shown themselves capable of, he had integrity. His teachings proclaimed forgiveness and peace, simply because others went against that didn’t mean he would - even at the end. His integrity, amongst his other exceptinial character traits, was perhaps the strongest. He always kept to what he taught. Whatever, whenever.

That deserves respect.

Sometimes people will do dumb things. God knows why − they just have this sudden urge to make themselves look foolish. They default on their dreams, eat recklessly and spend without caution. And sometimes, they pull you down with them. Sometimes they'll even condemn what you believe deepest in.

But you must remember that you, as an individual, have a choice. You can choose to throw away all your learning, all your progress, and regress to the level of an animal, angry and seeking revenge. Or you can stand tall and take it. I’m not saying it’s easy − I’m sure it wasn’t for Christ either, getting nails wrought through the flesh of his palms − but you notice something? All these millennia later, people remember the way Christ died. They remember the stand he made, despite his terrifying situation.

And, in keeping to his teachings to the last, in holding his integrity, it makes him and his message all the more worthy and well-respected in legacy as they were in life − perhaps more so.

Have a great Easter, if you celebrate, and otherwise enjoy your weekend!

Alex H.

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Friday, October 5, 2012

Alice Cooper Knows How to Live Life Better than Most Celebrities: Know Why?

 

Helloo0O Ladies and Gentlemen!

Welcome back to Graceland Ontario, your one stop location for learning the success lessons of the King of Rock 'n' Roll and seeing how to implement them into your life. This is part of our Halloween series. Perhaps not the most scary but, because of Alice Cooper’s reputation and act, I think it’ll fit in nicely.

Today, we'll do what we don't usually, look at one of the negative sides of Elvis's life and see how you can learn from it. Today, we'll be talking about too much isolation.


In his autobiography, Alice Cooper, Golf Monster: A Rock 'n' Roller's 12 Steps to Becoming a Golf Addict, Alice Cooper says he met Elvis after a show and found it sad he was so isolated. Apparently the King presented Cooper his most prized possession − a police report about Elvis defending himself against these fellas who were taunting him.  Given Elvis's expertise in Karate, he made minced meat of them.  Impressive. But to Cooper it said Elvis had no opportunity to show his own worth and take care of himself. Even in the given incident, Elvis's bodyguards had been standing behind him. If he hadn't told them to let him handle it, they would have taken the other guys. But Elvis wanted to stand up for himself once. 

 

Later, Cooper met Elvis when the snake charmer was training for a tour, but Elvis’s bodyguards pulled Elvis's head back in the car before Cooper and the King could get into a conversation. Cooper wanted to help Elvis but couldn't find a way to reach him - he was too far gone.
 
Because of Elvis's popularity and worth, his bodyguards (often members of the Memphis Mafia and friends on his payroll) all had a personal stake in keeping the King happy. After all, anything happened to him and they were out of a job. Besides, they'd lost a good friend. So, to keep him safe, they kept him isolated. He couldn't get hurt because he had no way of getting out of his persona - like real royalty, he was constantly under watch. And, as a result, any risks, whether that meant going for a ride in his car or having a night with his wife in some foreign state were out of the question. Even when Elvis was alone, he wasn't. There was someone outside his door. A guard holding the key. And, in a way, Elvis was a prisoner.

Cooper also mentions that he never wanted to be that successful - he loved his freedom and felt Elvis had become so big he'd lost that.


So, what does this mean? However successful you become, however great you are, prize your freedom above any other treasure, any position, any opportunity. Always allow the possibility of shutting down for a while. It's not a bad thing to be rich or famous, but you've got to still be you underneath it all. Otherwise, you'll turn into a prisoner. Isolation for a bit is relaxing. Permanent isolation because you're too valuable is a curse.

So, if and when you need people watching out for your safety, make sure you've still got places to go to disconnect from all the celebrity. A personal library, a private room where you're allowed to be you. Because if you don't preserve some element of the independence you were born into, you'll get into a position where others do everything for you; where you have to ask to live your life like you're some sort of kid, where you have to ask your bodyguards whether you can defend yourself. Though it may be hard to believe now, the more valuable you become the more you’ll mean to others. And they, like Elvis’s Memphis Mafia, will become indebted to you for their careers. They can’t afford you to get hurt so they’ll be careful to make sure you never get into a situation where you could be hurt. They’ll even condemn you to a life of loneliness if it means you’ll be safe so you can provide for them. No person deserves that sort of isolation from living their life. Remember, striving for success is about subsisting life at a greater level, not becoming prisoner to your accomplishments and a stranger to living.

 

Elvis’s Lessons:

In Alice Cooper's autobiography, Alice Cooper, Golf Monster: A Rock 'n' Roller's 12 Steps to Becoming a Golf Addict, Cooper recalls a couple experiences meeting Elvis. Both times he felt sorry for him because he was so successful and valuable, he didn't have his own life; he was so valuable to his bodyguards, he was isolated by them. As you become more successful and do greater things, remember to remain in control of your life, not a victim of your success. After all, you're working to improve your life, not cut yourself off from it.

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P.P.S. Due to the content of this week’s post, here’s a link to Alice Cooper singing "Poison" on Youtube. Enjoy!!!

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Friday, September 7, 2012

Bruno Mars Learnt from Elvis... Why Wouldn't You?

Helloo0O Ladies and Gentlemen…

Welcome back to another week at Graceland Ontario where we show you the lessons that made Elvis successful and fit them into your life. This week we’re going to talk about Elvis’s influence and how it’s no sin to use it for your benefit.

Check out this link:

http://www.elvis.com/news/detail.aspx?id=5575


It’s about modern pop star Bruno Mars. Mars has topped the charts a few times in recent years and won a Grammy, yet when he was four years old he was known as the world’s youngest Elvis Impersonator.

When Mars was young, he used Elvis’s image to boost his own (though he probably didn’t realise it then). When he got older, he did his own original material but still used what he learnt from Elvis to improve his act.

Mars at a young age, consciously or not, learnt that mixing his talent with Elvis’s legend and style were explosive. Even now, he uses the same formila to capture this generation of youth’s attention as Elvis did back in the 50’s.

As Mars shows, there’s no shame in learning from your idols to improve your act, whether it be in show biz, politics or the corporate world. Sure, you need to be safe in your own skin to be successful but if using the legend of a dead guy helps you do it, then use it.

You see, a lot of people get worried when they start using the legends of great men (or women) like Elvis to fine-tone their skills. They’re scared they’ll lose their personal identity and turn into a copy-cat.

But, as in Bruno Mars’s case, learning from the best does not mean you turn into them… It took Mars years to cement his own musical reputation. And even then, it required his own unique style. Take a look at some of his stuff − you can see the 50’s/60’s influence, but you wouldn’t say he’s solely copying Elvis.

And besides, most modern musicians copy Elvis to a degree whether they like it or not, he’s so imbedded in our culture.

No, Mars has a unique style, but he used Elvis to help get him there. And YOU can, too.

Copying Elvis’s confidence, his charm, his energy − whatever you need − will give you a basis to build foundations of your own (as Mars did in his music career). It turns into a question of “What would Elvis do in this situation?” From that basis, you can let the dead singer’s spirit lead you to accomplishment in whatever field you want.

Mars did it to help him get to a modern crowd of pop-enthusiasts; you can do it to help get whatever you like, too.


Elvis’s Lessons:

Bruno Mars, a modern singer-songwriter, Grammy winner and teen sensation, got his career basis as the world’s youngest Elvis impersonator when he was four. Mars used Elvis’s legend to help his career, and so can you. By asking yourself, “what would Elvis do in this situation?” you can change your perspective and use what Elvis had (confidence, energy, humility, etc…) as basis to improve yourself in that area. It worked for Mars, and he’s rich and famous now. It can work for you, too.

P.S. Any comments or questions regarding this post? Write me a note in the comment box below or email me at alexghilson@gmail.com and I'll reply to you faster than Usain Bolt can run the 100m... well, maybe not that fast.

P.P.S. If you'd like to see Bruno Mars singing his number one hit single, "Just the Way You Are", here's a link to the music video on Youtube.